tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post4490067696342409203..comments2023-09-09T11:19:07.533+01:00Comments on The Barefoot Crofter: Daft DaysJacquihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01659012917888444554noreply@blogger.comBlogger60125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-251768864039018012016-02-09T03:57:23.644+00:002016-02-09T03:57:23.644+00:00I've been checking. Hope you and the young ma...I've been checking. Hope you and the young man are doing ok.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-56007846021012503532016-01-27T13:08:56.029+00:002016-01-27T13:08:56.029+00:00Thinking of you....Thinking of you....Meggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16512116319930586068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-73350684842109875732016-01-23T18:15:37.316+00:002016-01-23T18:15:37.316+00:00Our favorite island. A perfect place to bring up c...Our favorite island. A perfect place to bring up children www.mark-mural.blogspot.com. I had cancer in 2006, our heartfelt best wishes to you and your family.Markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04514267486746083195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-84764736284770527682016-01-13T22:14:13.153+00:002016-01-13T22:14:13.153+00:00Sending you a massive hug. XxxxSending you a massive hug. XxxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-24613751465029267562016-01-13T16:45:53.394+00:002016-01-13T16:45:53.394+00:00Jacqui, I just wanted to let you know how much I l...Jacqui, I just wanted to let you know how much I love your posts. I don't comment much, but I come to "visit" you quite often. You are a wonderful story teller and I admire your photography skills. I will miss seeing you as much, but you do need to take care of yourself. I just wanted to wish you a happy new year and I pray that this year is filled with healing and many, many blessings!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16504812831044817084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-62266770621777032102016-01-12T15:51:53.277+00:002016-01-12T15:51:53.277+00:00Oh, me, you surely hit a point I should have menti...Oh, me, you surely hit a point I should have mentioned/did not. The other married friends, specifically, women who prattle on about their husbands and all that. Such things as "we are going to the beach next weekend" or "we went to the play last night" or "we" this or that. I felt like someone was slowly stabbing a knife into my heart with all those remarks, as innocent as they were. And those who complained about their husbands? I wanted to much to say "you may complain now but when he's gone....etc.". I kept my mouth shut and told myself "don't ever do this again." Was invited by a neighbor to go to lunch one day along with a couple of friends of hers and all one of the friends could talk about was someone they knew mutually who had married several times and "well, she buried him and that is number 4" or whatever. I was totally amazed at the lack of sensitivity friends of mine showed at that time in my life. So I found that making friends with other widows or divorcees or perhaps some singles was my best bet. It was not a good time and I pulled way back and really dropped some old friends because of that. And to think that now after 15 years, I can recall such hurts so vividly. Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01893402223289295177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-24907669662027256652016-01-12T10:05:02.858+00:002016-01-12T10:05:02.858+00:00Happy New Year Jacqui. Look after yourself, do wha...Happy New Year Jacqui. Look after yourself, do what you need to do to keep yourself safe because these are still such early days in your loss and your grief and your deeply changed world. Blog as little or as often as you need to. Stepping back and giving myself permission to blog once a day or once a year depending on how I felt (closer to the latter as it turned out) was one of the best things I could have done. It was starting to feel like such an obligation and life's too short for too many of those. <br /><br />Also, I'm for puppies. There is nothing better than puppies. xxcarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09351483253361159121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-74640293746454166822016-01-12T02:10:25.430+00:002016-01-12T02:10:25.430+00:00Thanks your posts ! This great !!!!
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Now I am hoping to write when I feel like it and to write about things that are important to me. I have appreciated your blog so much and your honesty has been so real. Thank you. ~AlisonJourneys to Scotlandhttps://ajb47.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-45924121965511709072016-01-10T15:13:46.886+00:002016-01-10T15:13:46.886+00:00I'm not the best at remembering to look after ...I'm not the best at remembering to look after me, its a habit to learn, I follow aurorawatch but we have so many hills around us, I need to just push myself to get out in the car and get to the nearest high point if there is an alert lol xxxThe Quirky Bird Gardenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13857611654337366532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-228566884370324462016-01-09T20:48:27.750+00:002016-01-09T20:48:27.750+00:00Hello, Lois - thank you for those words, and I am ...Hello, Lois - thank you for those words, and I am grateful that you have found the blog helpful. I won't be stopping the blog, but I have stopped putting pressure on myself to keep updating. I have found such a supportive community gathering around in this very space, and you are most welcome. I am sorry your husband has died, and send love and prayers to you xxxJacquihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01659012917888444554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-57196345723865030232016-01-09T20:43:18.237+00:002016-01-09T20:43:18.237+00:00You just did, Wendy xxxYou just did, Wendy xxxJacquihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01659012917888444554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-91823476075634687802016-01-09T18:56:26.940+00:002016-01-09T18:56:26.940+00:00This is how I felt as well, Kay. My first husband...This is how I felt as well, Kay. My first husband passed 11 years ago very suddenly. We had three young sons. I would go to lunch with girlfriends every Wednesday and I'd listen to them make their plans for the future and how they needed to paint their bedroom and complain about their husbands. This is all "normal" stuff when you have a spouse but it all changed after John's death. I stopped meeting them for lunch soon after. So much changes but new doors are opened. There's a plan in all of it. We just have to trust and allow. God bless. xoxo<br /><br />~ WendyWendy McDonagh-Valentinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01960081613348728607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-82677470097091588622016-01-09T18:52:41.136+00:002016-01-09T18:52:41.136+00:00I so vividly remember those days, weeks, months af...I so vividly remember those days, weeks, months after my first husband passed. I felt like my feet were not on the ground. I gave myself permission just to go with the flow when it came to what I wanted to accomplish each day. Some days I felt like doing a lot and other days I felt like staying in my house and all of us in our pajamas all day. It took a good while for me to feel like my feet were firmly planted on the ground again. For some it takes less time and for others more. Nobody can tell you how long this process of grieving should take. Listening to my inner voice was what helped me the most. Keep doing what you're doing, Jacqui. One day at a time. I truly wish I could give you a hug. xoxoxo<br /><br />~ Wendy<br />http://Crickleberrycottage.blogspot.com/Wendy McDonagh-Valentinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01960081613348728607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-51133242677414164582016-01-09T16:12:05.713+00:002016-01-09T16:12:05.713+00:00sorry for the typo - - not "the world" b...sorry for the typo - - not "the world" but the word....Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01893402223289295177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-33806454240756421202016-01-09T16:11:25.574+00:002016-01-09T16:11:25.574+00:00I found same thing after I lost my husband some 15...I found same thing after I lost my husband some 15 years ago. The things I used to do and enjoy became an instance of "I no longer have my heart in this." Perfectly normal now I know but not then. I just sat and thought and felt so out of place in the normal world. But gradually the "spark of life" as I call it came back to me and life became a little more bearable. Take time to step back and assimilate all the changes you've gone through. It is a necessary event to do so. But later on, I hope you'll feel it is time to reconnect. And the world "auto pilot" is soooooo very correct. Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01893402223289295177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-56400320192421201082016-01-09T04:31:59.891+00:002016-01-09T04:31:59.891+00:00Jackie. my husband died in June, I found your blog...Jackie. my husband died in June, I found your blog soon after, I have found comfort in your words I wish you well if you do decide to not blog anymore and I will think of often Loislois blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17298440756142132729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-53965425564089039702016-01-08T12:00:35.558+00:002016-01-08T12:00:35.558+00:00Makes total sense, Christine. I am working on it -...Makes total sense, Christine. I am working on it - not much scope for gardening yet, but soon hopefully xxxJacquihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01659012917888444554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-4647400136605988952016-01-07T22:25:52.105+00:002016-01-07T22:25:52.105+00:00Fantastic photo of the "Fir Chlis," the ...Fantastic photo of the "Fir Chlis," the Dancing Men. I wholeheartedly support you in taking time for yourself and only blogging when it is the right thing for you. I agree that your body is needing time to catch up, and is trying to tell you so. It sounds like you are perhaps needing to practice being grounded? I often live in my head far too much. Gardening, or just being aware of my feet on the ground as I walk really help me be more balanced. When I need to work on being more grounded I notice I literally fall / stumble, and my knees start to hurt. I mention this just in case it's helpful - ignore if not! Much love from us to you XoxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-86063087656893244582016-01-07T22:25:01.691+00:002016-01-07T22:25:01.691+00:00Thoughts from Mull Jacqui.. take care. xThoughts from Mull Jacqui.. take care. xTreshnishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17611691987685421038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-79123205217969037932016-01-07T17:06:54.072+00:002016-01-07T17:06:54.072+00:00take care, we'll be waiting for you when we ha...take care, we'll be waiting for you when we have the energy to come here, until then look after yourself xdriftwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11416170414524297337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-15589451667036035012016-01-07T10:34:47.427+00:002016-01-07T10:34:47.427+00:00Time to heal is definitely what you need, I will m...Time to heal is definitely what you need, I will miss your beautiful pictures and words but totally understand. I have posted about healing today too for very different reasons. Enjoy the slowness and the world around you.sustainablemumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04099701194160334671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-73060761281622656382016-01-06T23:45:45.247+00:002016-01-06T23:45:45.247+00:00From Margie in Toronto - All the best to you and J...From Margie in Toronto - All the best to you and James in 2016 - and if you need to step back a bit every now and again I'm sure everyone will understand. I always enjoy your photography so will always check back in whenever you have the time.<br />I hope that you will enjoy your visit to Ottawa this summer - have you been there before? It's a lovely city - I've been there the past couple of summers and really enjoyed the visits. I usually take the train - it's between 4 and 5 hours from Toronto but I find the train relaxing and always enjoy it. Yes, distances on this side of the Atlantic are a wee bit different. A friend and I took a Fall trip to the Agawa Canyon up at lake Superior and it was an all day drive and then 4 hours on the train the next morning to get to the canyon - 2 hrs in the canyon and then 4 hours back to Sault Ste. Marie - drive back o Toronto the next day. If we weren't willing to travel like that I'm afraid we'd have to stay home! One day I hope to get far enough north at this time of year to see The Northern Lights - your photos are amazing. Take care of yourself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-7204312396903816912016-01-06T23:04:14.625+00:002016-01-06T23:04:14.625+00:00That is exactly what I feel Jacqui. David was ill ...That is exactly what I feel Jacqui. David was ill for just over a year and with no diagnosis until just before he died. We had a holiday in Orkney before he really fell ill in 2014 and he wasn't right for the few months before. It is a lot to work through and recover from. I work full time and take care of my daughters and know that I'm not giving myself the time I need to assimilate it all. I know that because when I stop and sit I feel heavy hearted but I can bouy myself up and get on with things.Not sure really where to start but I am with you all the way. Like you, I live in a lovely, rural place and blessed to have such kind friends and family. This has helped me no end. Nurturing thoughts, Ali xAlihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10022450298057511144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3318018466733912574.post-17371216804243583322016-01-06T21:42:23.667+00:002016-01-06T21:42:23.667+00:00Oh, so glad you've seen my little Lucia! I hav...Oh, so glad you've seen my little Lucia! I have been enjoying every moment with her. There is a direct flight to San Juan from London now on norwegian airlines. A friend that lives here in Rincon just spent Christmas with family back in London and had her first direct flight. Give it a try!Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10209743296925049104noreply@blogger.com